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[majestic_duxk]

I write a lot of fiction with very dubious consent issues. I write a lot in the ABO trope. And I am getting really, really sick of people who don't read the tags and then feel entitled to write attacking comments.

I just got this beauty.


now, I am generally pretty laid back at responding to this sort of stuff. But honestly? I am getting really, really sick of it. This is the reply I am working on:

Yep, I am totally using a lot of the misogynistic tropes in this story. It is one of the things I like in the abo verse.

You don't like the story, and that is fine. You obviously have a lot of issues with the content. That, I think is more unreasonable. You chose to read it, when I tagged in, what I believe, is an appropriate manner. To cut directly from above:

omega verse consent issues
dub con
previous non con
shaming due to status
Public Sex
Spanking
Domestic Discipline
Collars
leashing
consensual power exchange within an lack of consent environment
Marking
Kneeling
omega/sub dynamics
corner time
lack of autonomy
Crying Dean
Discipline
Light Dom/sub

And the statement at the end " I really, really hope that this story is just your kink fantasies, and you don’t actually believe women should be treated this way in real life" is just plain rude. I don't believe that women should be treated like that. But all women are entitled to their fantasies - whether they are socially acceptable or not. And I am writing fiction about relationships between fictional characters who live in an even more fictionalised world. As far as I am aware, vampires, werewolves, and other supernatural creatures don't exist in this world, and in writing about them I don't wish that they did exist.

There is pretty much nothing in this story that has anything to do with reality... That's the awesome thing about fantasy.

So I am sorry you read a story that you didn't like, and can only recommend that you carefully read the tags in the future.

Is it too bitchy? Am I being unreasonable?

I am just getting so fucking sick of people not reading tags and attacking me for things they don't like in a story. If I have an issue with a theme? I click the back button, even if it wasn't really tagged for. Grrrrr. People can be so annoying.

Comments

[whiskygalore.livejournal.com]

No, it's not too bitchy and yes, you are being more than reasonable. People like this make me so mad!

Tags are there for a reason. It's obvious from the outset what your fic entails. Why people insist on reading stories just to lambast the author I have no idea. If the story isn't your cup of tea; don't read it. It really is very simple.

As a writer you are entitled to create the world you want; that's the joy of fiction. Just because you're character does something doesn't mean that you personally condone it or recommend it. I think some people get writers confused with the character's they write about.

As far as their last comment goes, it's ridiculous and rude. I wonder how many a/b/o fics the reader has read and why she continues to read them if her feelings on the subject are so strong. A/b/o fics tend to be full of consent issues; mine certainly are. And the ones I enjoy reading are. Are my views on women's rights set in the middle ages. NO, as my husband and children will readily attest to. Your reader has issues, but they are really not your problem.

For the record; I love your fic. I did comment on your last chapter but I'll say it again; I love it. It's hot first of all - hello spanking - and the CONSENSUAL domestic discipline kind of relationship they have going on works for them both. I'm looking forward to the next chapter.

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[majestic-duxk.livejournal.com]

thanks. I was just so taken aback. And while I don't want to just take it, I also don't want to have an over the top bitchy response. I don't know what it is with people who feel entitled to push their opinions like that. One of my other stories was a clusterfuck of negative comments.

My stories fall very firmly into two camps: dub con/power dynamics, and fluff. And comments like this make me feel bad about writing, even though I know their comment is about them and not me.

and thanks! I am glad you are enjoying it!

[rirren.livejournal.com]

Dude, what on earth. People can be so stupid when it comes to separating fantasy from reality. And it sounds like the reader should just completely stay away from the Omegaverse tag if they don't like reading anything that could be seen as misogynistic. And the dubcon and 'lack of consent' tags are right there.

They're probably someone who has just stumbled across ABO for the first time ever but I hate it when people feel the need to complain about the subject of a story when it's clearly labelled. It's even worse how they imply you have the same beliefs as the ABO society.

I don't think you're being too harsh. I would just slap them with a 'Depiction =/= endorsement' reply as well.

[majestic-duxk.livejournal.com]

Hah. That was my thought too - this is not a genre you should be reading...

and thanks - I have decided to stop being so easy on people that leave rude comment. but I still don't want to be nasty :-/

[dreamsofspike.livejournal.com]

You aren't being bitchy or unreasonable at all. Your story is well tagged and warned and there is no reason why anyone who didn't want to read the content would have accidentally stumbled onto it :/

This person is just being really judgey in the really wrong environment for it :P

I think your response is well thought out and honestly, more polite than they deserve.

People are just mean lately *sigh* :/ I got some mean reviews a week or so ago, too. :/

<3 <3 <3 All the hugs to you, love :)

[majestic-duxk.livejournal.com]

the comments you got last time were hate and nothing else. The fact that people feel entitled to do such things is just awful.

<3 hugs to you too

[saltandburnboys.livejournal.com]

No, it's more than fucking reasonable. That person is just one more asshole who can't understand that just because you write about a kink doesn't mean you'd indulge it in real life. And your notes and tags more than show what the story is going to be like...it was their fault for reading it. Don't worry about it, hon, your story is damn popular, that negative comment is like a drop in the ocean of all the positive comments. *Hugs*

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[majestic-duxk.livejournal.com]

<3 I find it amazing how many people seem unable to distinguish between real life and fantasy.

most people have been pretty nice, but then most people read the freaking tags! I had the exact same issue with the last story, except there were stacks more people up in arms. I have just reached my limit, y'know?

thank you <3<3

[saltandburnboys.livejournal.com]

Don't let them get to you, hon, they're self righteous idiots. Honestly, they shouldn't even be in the kink section since they hardly ever approve of any of the kinks...I never quite understand why they try to read kink stories... Just remember all the people who do like and appreciate your stories; as you say, the assholes are few and far between. :-)

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